girlsgonechildThis babe is as much work as the other three combined multiplied by ten. Everything I thought I knew about discipline and communication and keeping the peace is completely moot with Bo who is a force all her own. This weekend was whoooooaaaa in the "nooooooo" department. I adore her with everything but oh my phew there have been tears. A battle of wills is in full force between us and its exhausting and overwhelming and yeah. Solidarity to the mamas and the papas and the caretakers in the same boat. You deserve a thousand high fives and infinity hugs.
- kelly42sYou are a great mama xo
- erinlucylovesOmygoodness yes. My daughter was born a week or so before bo and revi and she is such a complex little lady. My eldest is compliant and mellow and just pure sunshine all the time. My daughter is sweet and salty and full of fire. Our whole house revolves around trying to keep her happy because life is much easier when she's getting her way - but that is scary for a number of reasons. She's already in charge and she's only 2 years old and she's going to end up a spoiled tyrant eventually. I'm going to go find that book that so many commenters have suggested. Good luck to all of us!
- emelleess306At almost the exact age as Bo, my oldest little (now 2.5) threw me for a loop. Seriously. He had such connection and love and understanding and then GONE. I felt like a failure, as he was my oldest, and I felt that I lost my sweet, sweet baby. Just recently (within a few days) WE have turned a corner. I'm not sure if it's him or me or both of us, but we are enjoying all of our time together now rather than being on different sides of a war neither of us wanted to join. We are laughing and playing and loving on each other again. I only hope it sticks around. I offer you hope that soon you two will have a little bit of mutual understanding back. It really makes all the difference.
- jillandrewsdudasBefore I had children, I thought misbehaviour was almost always a direct result of poor parenting. And then, I had my son. He is amazing, intelligent, energetic, passionate and imaginative. He’s also willful, impossible, and exhausting at times. He lives on the edge of obstinance. He has so many characteristics that are going to serve him well as an adult, incredible attributes that I, in my thirties, have yet to master. As a parent though, those characteristics are difficult to manage. It’s a constant struggle between wanting him to behave and wanting him to be exactly who he is. Hang in there!
- jess.weliwitigoda@girlsgonechild I have a spirited girl as well. At six, she has calmed, but she is still extremely feisty. Definitely read raising your spirited child, it is a great book.
- lorettelavineAs a grandma co- parent I am finding a lot of wisdom from Janet Lansbury and her mentor the late Magda Gerber and RIE's approach to parenting with empathy and respect.
- rararashel@girlsgonechild The Explosive Child is a great book. My 5 year old girl is bananas and outstanding all at once. Over the spirited child and child's mind, the explosive child is 👍👍👍.
- thenycjenny@mammy_p thank you for those words, that was the spot of kindness and hope I needed to get through the crazy night routine today.
- kmaganzI'm there right now too! You are not alone. Our Rosie is straight fire.
- beverley_dawnI look back on my daughter's videos of her as a two year old and I am EXHAUSTED. She wore me out. It really, really does get better. She's nearly 13 and so much fun now, though she was nearly the death of me at two. I remember that we actually took her bedroom door off of its hinges because she would slam it so hard and laugh at me while doing it.
- ohjennymaeIt's my boy. The third child, as well and always the middle child, even though we have 4. It talks everything I have to not yell at him when he slams the folder/fork/iPod/door/whateverthefuckelsehesholding.
- thatwildroadIt's so great of you to be real about this. My girl, my one and only, is hard. She's three. She needs attention every second of every day. She sleeps less, plays harder, tantrums longer, feels deeper than the other kids I know. Still, I often think, hey, what is it about me that makes it so hard to parent this little being. When maybe the answer is it just IS hard. She takes more energy than other kids. This is a nice reminder that it's not me. It just is.
- jctardieThanks so much for this! It helps so much to read all these comments and not feel so alone! Some days I feel like I'm seriously failing at motherhood, but this just raised my spirits!
- earichards80@expatriababy I struggle with this so much. Especially when my little one was a baby. People would talk about "good" babies- babies that didn't cry and slept through the night early. And it always made me feel like I had a "bad" baby which meant I was a bad parent. Which I know know is total crap. But back when I was a brand new mama and I hadn't slept in about a year... Yeah. It's so hard!
- thatwildroad@earichards80 it's so good to know others are in the same, sleepless, frustrating, amazing, self-doubting, lovely boat, hey?
- leilagt@kyradk Did you see this post and these comments? They're helping me xxoo
- kyradk@leilagt thank you thank you!!!
- kyradk@jillandrewsdudas I love that description! Living on the edge of obstinance. That's my 3 1/2 year old daughter. She also has many traits that I know will serve her well as an adult, especially as a female. But whoa are they exhausting and frustrating now!
- nataloonI'm just reading your "gypsy soul" blog entry and I swear I could have typed this same thing as my little boy, who is a bit younger than Bo, but still very similar already. It's going in that direction. I remember with my little girl- who is now almost 5... when she was his age I could sit and color nicely with her, gave her a little drawer full of buttons and she'd sort them by color and was so nice and quiet... My son on the other hand... he breaks and tries to eat every crayon, rips up the paper, and would flip the drawer of buttons and then try to eat them off the floor or something (if I ever gave him the opportunity)... it's exhausting and I find myself locking myself in the bathroom from time to time and every so often am in tears because I don't know what to do with him. I cannot keep ANYTHING in his reach. Can't bring him to people's houses and unfortunately my daughter's life is all about "Well, I can't really bring her to that because I'd have to bring him and well... he'd destroy the place..." and it's sometimes impossible to find a babysitter. Anyway- I'm rambling, but I wanted to just let you know again that YOU AREN'T ALONE in this crazy adventure.
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