Daddy Chronicles Don't listen to outside noise about your relationship. Most people think it's easy but it's actually hard. I remember telling my friends and family that the boys father was my barber. Now for me it just made sense. He was a barber and good at it, I did not have a barber and guess what I needed my hair cut. So I figured let him do it because the money would go to him which indirectly goes to the boys. Some people in my life immediately judged me which made me second guess my decision. "Why would you do that" "get you a different barber because it's going to be awkward" "that's stupid" are a few things people would say as if I couldn't be cool with him because he was my wife's ex. The noise got so loud I actually stopped going to him because I just thought there needed to be a line drawn of how cool we could be. Like we could speak when we see each other but cutting my hair was too cool for an ex. I had to do some soul searching for what I felt comfortable with for myself and my life despite what others might say because it was ultimately its me who lives my life so I'm the only one who knows what's good for it and what's not. The boys get to see me and their father interact without their mother. We get a chance to talk about what is going on with the boys, what ideas we have for them and any problems we are having with them that we need to be on the same page with. I think the negative stigma around exes really prevent some from developing a great co-parenting relationship which should be the ultimate goal. My ego and insecurities around what others may say about my relationship with my kids father almost cost my a dope barber but worst of all could have affected my relationship with their father. I asked the boys how they felt about me and their dad talking and me getting my hair cut by him and they both thought it was cool. Kids don't care about adult shit. They get to see the two most important men in their lives display what the essence of being a man is. Putting your pride to the side for those who you love the most. No real tips hear other than remember you get to decide what your relationship looks like not people watching.
