“I want you to consider the possibility that you’re aiming to find the best possible mate on paper — the most handsome, the smartest, the most charming, the most objectively amazing — simply because this is what an overachiever does, when you should be aiming to find a guy who is utterly attuned to your particular mix of flaws and charms. What if you’re beautiful and also a little ugly? What if you’re gorgeous to some and monstrous to others? What if you are incredible and also scary, exciting and sexy and also a little bit too intense to tolerate? Because you are. We all are. And the guys who want more mystery, who want more quiet, who want a better body, who want a more suspenseful waiting time between texts? Those aren’t the guys for you. You want someone who makes you laugh and sees you clearly and helps you be complex and concrete and openhearted and unnervingly real. That is the magic you seek. It’s a sloppy kind of magic, one that does not require strenuous self-improvement. You have already arrived. You are perfectly cooked. You don’t have to work so hard anymore. You don’t have to convince anyone of anything. You can just be.” -Heather Havrilesky (📷: @steveschwindt)
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  • hcnickerson“I want you to consider the possibility that you’re aiming to find the best possible mate on paper — the most handsome, the smartest, the most charming, the most objectively amazing — simply because this is what an overachiever does, when you should be aiming to find a guy who is utterly attuned to your particular mix of flaws and charms. What if you’re beautiful and also a little ugly? What if you’re gorgeous to some and monstrous to others? What if you are incredible and also scary, exciting and sexy and also a little bit too intense to tolerate? Because you are. We all are. And the guys who want more mystery, who want more quiet, who want a better body, who want a more suspenseful waiting time between texts? Those aren’t the guys for you. You want someone who makes you laugh and sees you clearly and helps you be complex and concrete and openhearted and unnervingly real. That is the magic you seek. It’s a sloppy kind of magic, one that does not require strenuous self-improvement. You have already arrived. You are perfectly cooked. You don’t have to work so hard anymore. You don’t have to convince anyone of anything. You can just be.” -Heather Havrilesky (📷: @steveschwindt)
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