- beaconukcomThe Perils Of Overthinking!
I had a bit of an unwelcome shock to the system last night! ‘PING’, “You’re getting noticed on LinkedIn” read the message on the screen of my iPhone… … I had been busy all day yesterday, catching up on lots of work having been away on holiday for the Easter break, so by 9pm I was snuggled down on the sofa under my cosy blanket and watching the latest ‘Big Little Lies’ episode. As the adverts came on, I reached for my phone to check my messages and notifications and there on my screen was a familiar face, the all too familiar face of my ex husband. I felt instantly sick and my cheeks got hot and flushed.
Why now? Why look at me profile? What does he want? Does he want me to know he’s looked at my profile? Is this some sinister act? Should I feel threatened having set up Beacon because of his actions? Why? Why? Why?
Question after question whizzing through my skull like Formula One cars on a track. Why after nearly 5 years would he show his face on my business networking account? I screenshot the page and sent it to a couple of my girlfriends with the simple tag ‘What the actual f@*k???’ – within seconds I had a response from two of my closest buddies who had lived through the break-up and subsequent fall-out with me. Very quickly they were able to talk me down off the proverbial ledge and turn my overthinking on its head. This is all it was, ‘overthinking’, people look at their exes all the time on social media, but most of the time you don’t even know they are doing it as you don’t get a notification advising you of their stalker habits, however on LinkedIn it was there plain as day!
I was surprised by how I reacted to seeing his face and knowing that he had gone looking for me, I thought that nearly 5 years on I would calmly delete the notification and get on with my life, but somehow it had leapt out at me and tasered me in the heart. Read more @ http://www.beacon.uk.com/the-perils-of-overthinking #divorce #socialmedia #wtfisthis
- kimplatt79#strong xx