S C H O O L // I know lots of people found out about primary school places today. We actually found out which school Toby will be going to on Sunday but I've been taking a little bit of time to process my thoughts. We got our second choice, which to be honest is what we expected. But our first choice was the only non-church school in our town. So that means Toby will be going to our nearest school which is a CofE school. There are lots of great things about it - lots of fab outdoor space being the main selling point. I'm sure lots of parents round here made it their first choice. Probably some even go to church for the sole purpose of getting into that school. But we are atheists and it just doesn't feel right to send my kids (because no doubt they will both go there. now) to a school who's tagline (if you can call it that) is 'Guided by God'. I guess we're going to have to accept it because we don't really seem to have any acceptable grounds for appeal. And maybe it will all work out fine and I'm worrying for nothing but it just doesn't sit right with me. I want to do the best I possibly can for my children and for me that doesn't include being taught Christianity as fact #atheistproblems #primaryschool #concentrationface
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  • tobygoesbananasS C H O O L // I know lots of people found out about primary school places today. We actually found out which school Toby will be going to on Sunday but I've been taking a little bit of time to process my thoughts. We got our second choice, which to be honest is what we expected. But our first choice was the only non-church school in our town. So that means Toby will be going to our nearest school which is a CofE school. There are lots of great things about it - lots of fab outdoor space being the main selling point. I'm sure lots of parents round here made it their first choice. Probably some even go to church for the sole purpose of getting into that school. But we are atheists and it just doesn't feel right to send my kids (because no doubt they will both go there. now) to a school who's tagline (if you can call it that) is 'Guided by God'. I guess we're going to have to accept it because we don't really seem to have any acceptable grounds for appeal. And maybe it will all work out fine and I'm worrying for nothing but it just doesn't sit right with me. I want to do the best I possibly can for my children and for me that doesn't include being taught Christianity as fact #atheistproblems #primaryschool #concentrationface
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  • motherscufferI completely understand your feelings about this, I felt the same when my eldest got a place in a cofe school. I found it very frustrating that teachers taught the Christian parts as facts, just as they would any other subject. I was very honest with my son about my thoughts and always reminded him that those aspects of school were about people's beliefs and it wasn't the same as science and fact. In the end they had no lasting influence on him and I think the parent's have a greater impact.
  • tobygoesbananas@motherscuffer Thank you - I think that's the road we're going to go down too. I just worry slightly that I'll be telling him that some of what he is being taught isn't 'true' and that he's too little to distinguish between the bits that are and the bits that aren't if that makes sense. Maybe we should just follow you down the home ed route 🙂
  • motherscufferI felt very much the same and I did always wonder if it meant he never quite respected his teachers fully because I was telling him they couldn't be trusted. Home ed is great 😀
  • littleladiesbigworldI really feel for you, I am atheist too and my daughter goes to a c of e school and sometimes I feel uncomfortable if I'm totally honest but hoping she will learn to respect opinions and beliefs she cannot see and that there is so much diversity in the world. I hope anyway. Hope you are feeling ok x
  • tobygoesbananas@motherscuffer We're going to be open with the school about our (lack of) beliefs and see where we go from there. We could try taking him out of some of the more hardcore religious bits but don't want him to feel singled out or like he's done something wrong. It's just so frustrating that we just don't have a choice. There are 6 primary schools in our town and only one is a non-faith school!
  • tobygoesbananas@littleladiesbigworld Thank you. I'm sure it will work out OK. I know he will make up his own mind in the end anyway but I just wish we weren't being forced into this situation.
  • motherscufferI didn't take Tom out of those parts for the same reason. All I can say to reassure you is that Tom turned out to be a pretty decent atheist in the end!
  • littleladiesbigworld@tobygoesbananas yes I totally get that x
  • mousemummyI feel you. Where we lived previously our only real option was a Catholic school and much of my family was like "what's the big deal?" We ended up moving to another part of town in the end because for us it was a big deal. I think there is just a lot of gray area at this age. It's so hard to explain. Also, what if she stops believing in Santa because of the way I explain things. That would be a real tragedy. 😆
  • tobygoesbananas@mousemummy Oh I definitely get the 'what's the problem?' thing. So many people have said that to me. But to us it is a problem. Just one we're going to have to live with.
  • tobygoesbananas@mousemummy Oh, and I hadn't even considered Father Christmas 😢
  • littlefishblogOh I really feel for you and hope you come to a place of thought or decision that is right for your family. I think so much of it really depends on the school to be honest. I went to our local c of e as a kid (my parents weren't religious) and it definitely was not pressed on us. There was more of a Christian focus in assemblies and we went to church at xmas, but that was about it! I've taught in both c of e and non denominational primary schools and think it's more about the general ethos - about encouraging children to be kind and open minded etc that is most important. Try not to stress, hope it all works out! Xx
  • tobygoesbananas@littlefishblog Thank you. This one does seem quite churchy - worship in assembly every day and church every week. We'll see though, it might work out OK.
  • mousemummyThis is awful to admit, but we baptized Melina because my mom gave us money. Ha ha. I can be bought! But in that classes beforehand I really did think, if I adjust the context I can work with this. "Help her find a husband that will strengthen her relationship with the lord..." okay no, but how about help her understand the importance of finding a partner that will push her to grow as a good human. Maybe just find a way that works for you to put it in a context you can live with.
  • just_janisMy nieces down South are the same but I think as long as you teach them to ask questions(which I'm sure you would anyway) they deal with it fine.
  • tobygoesbananas@just_janis Thanks, I'm sure it will be OK. I just don't want him to get in to trouble at school for questioning what he's being told. You'd like to think he wouldn't but you never know!
  • ciderwithsophieI felt the same about our catchment school when we looked around, I just didn't expect it to be so religious. Especially when there clearly lots of children from other faiths there yet only one 'god" on all their displays etc. At least you may be able to challenge them a little to open their rhetoric?
  • tobygoesbananas@ciderwithsophie Well we're going to speak to them about our lack of beliefs and how it's going to work, and will also be talking to Toby a lot and encouraging him to ask lots of questions too.
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