bubs2bikinisLast week someone made a comment on my page and you know what, it upset me. It cut me pretty deep and while I do my best to remain positive - this hurt.
It basically said 'I wish I got to stay at home all day and exercise with my child, instead I have to go to work and do WORK...' Work?! You think I don't WORK?! You think I sit at home all day and twiddle my thumbs? You think 2 x 22 month old toddlers just let me kick my feet up all day after I've done my morning workout? You think I'm beaming with energy as I grow a new baby and frantically do my best to keep up with twin boys that run rings around me?! Just to break it down... I exercise for 20-30 minutes a day. Sometimes stopping 20 times throughout to fetch toys, bring food, stop hair pulling, break up fights over toys and some days, stopping 2 minutes in because it just ain't happening that day! Other days we're so busy or the boys are so CLINGY / CRANKY (eg: this photo sums it up) the best workout I can get in is some squats, push ups and tricep dips while they eat or while we practice new words, counting to 10 or all the body parts we've learnt.
I certainly DON'T spend all day exercising. My days are spent changing shitty nappies, dealing with tantrums, playing cars and trucks, making food that gets thrown on the floor before it's even tasted, walking the streets trying to get tired, grumpy children to nap, attempting to teach two little humans to SHARE instead of bite, pull hair, scratch or push each other, pushing swings, climbing up and down bloody forts that shouldn't even be in kids playgrounds because they are so damn unsafe, singing the alphabet, going for adventures to keep the bubs happy, vacuuming 3 times a day because of all that food that I worked so hard to cook wasn't even considered eating, oh and did I mention the constant battle of playing referee ALL day between two little cheeky monkeys that guess what DON'T 'just play happily and entertain each other all day!' For the record, TWINS don't do that!!! Maybe when they're older, yes! I hope so anyway ~ but for now, no - I literally for most of the part can't take my eyes off them! Cont. in comments 👇👇
- reilz2I just read about this in Mamamia. I've got an 11 week old - prior to being on mat leave, had a fairly high stress, time intensive senior management role. Far out, back to back meetings five days a week is a walk in the park compared to raising a child! I can't fathom how people do this with more than one child. Hats off to every mamma or papa who is the primary carer for their child. 🙏🏻
- blk.butter.flyI'm single and childless and I wouldn't want to trade places with you at all! That sounds harder than the job I do and I'm a baggage handler. That troll was just jealous! Keep up the good work...
- barefootandbossPreach! 🙌🏻 I have a 4 2 & 3 month old and someone said the sentence to me "well I've been at work all day" after an incredulous look from me she quickly changed subject. People see but a snippet of your day. I've just found your account and I LOVE it!! It's just occurred to me that I've commented on a lot of photos and probably now look like a stalker 😂 soz!
- staveyandbabyHave a 9-5 job does not compare to being a mother! It's easy going to work and coming home putting your feet up and repeat. You can't do that with a child.. people are ignorant. Your doing amazing just like the rest of us ❤
- mobie5tarWhen I had just had my first I bumped into someone I had worked with and she thought it was great that I was getting 12 months off work and wanted to know what I was going to do whilst on maternity leave. I said I was going to look after the baby and she just looked at me confused and said "yeah but what else?" well she just had a baby and I'm so tempted to ask ha ha...
- mumodysseyYes being a stay at home mum is hard and it's definitely not possible to exercise all day. BUT it is also the best, most rewarding job there is despite clinginess, tantrums and all the rest of it. That person didn't use the right words, but they did have reason to wish for your life over theirs... in my opinion!
- kyliepoehlandYou are a freaking super hero in my book! Listen I have one two year old work less than part time and want to die. The only time I can workout is when my hubby is home and it's a needed break! Keep it up you are to legit to quit!
- mossyoakgurl727Stay at home mom of 2 a 5 year old and a 1 year old i was working while i was pregnant with my oldest and went back after i had him but being away from him was hard for me it wasn't fair to my residents that my mind was else where so i ended up staying home with him and then we had our little girl.. its most definitely not easy what people who complain about stay at home moms is that we don't sit on our asses all day long. We don't get to sleep in and let's not forget when 1 or all the kids are sick and sometimes we are sick with them we dont get to stay in bed we push through and put them first before anything else!! Also a homemaker is an actual job description lets also mention the money you are saving by being a stay at home mom! Daycare is expensive if you were working you would be working to pay for daycare.. yes i understand there may he only 1 income but there are ways to stay home and earn money as well.. Im sometimes ashamed to say Im a stay at home mom. Sometimes I feel guilty because I don't work to help with bills ect. But i also know it would be a waste of time working to earn a paycheck just to pay for daycare. There are trolls around every corner they have something negative to say about anything and everything if they don't believe in what you stand for.. this world is a sad sad place anymore.. were people like this when it was a woman's "job" to stay home and take of the house work and all that and only men were allowed to work back in the day no. So as long as it is ok with both people in the relationship that you stay home or they stay home and take care of the kids then there shouldn't be an issue! A stay at home mom or dad isn't a 9-5 job it's a 24 hours 7 days a week job with little to no time for yourself or your partner! You are an inspiration to many who get shamed and aren't comfortable voicing their opinion!!!
- itsme.suziOh my god. I'm going back to work (instead of working from home) for the first time in almost 4 years and I can't wait! Leaving the house isn't work. It's a BREAK! Being a stay at home mum is infinitely harder than going to work, and for the record I'm sure 90% of mums on here are (like me) in awe of the fact you actually manage to squeeze a workout in most days and find it super inspiring. I've adapted some of your workouts to be able to do them while holding a clingy crying 9 month old. Most weeks I only get one workout in 🙄 #boymumlife 😘😘
- _sarah.alo_I just read about this sahm piece and all I can say is THANK YOU, I'm a twin mum of soon to be 2year olds and a soon to be 5month old and ITS HARD, and people don't get it. Thank you for being real and putting it out there that twins are rough and tough and ready for making a muck. Sometimes I feel bad when my girls fight they can be so mean but I know it must be normal is nice. I'm so proud that ur able to show the real side of being a twin mum. I def get sick of what have you done all day specially on bad days when very little gets done . YOU KNOW WHAT I DID ALL DAY RASIE KIDS !!!!!! 🤣🖕🏼 so you get it super mummy your doing great !!!!
- jmfancyI haven't seen the comment but a huge thank you for responding. I don't know how you do it with twins. My two boys are all grown up but even with one at a time , it's hard work. My youngest son had their first child and she will be 3 months old May 2nd and it's been a tough couple of months for the new parents. I love your posts. Keep them coming. A huge pat on the back for you. 👍🏼👍🏼😊
- bowltobelly👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Amen! Anyone who's been at home with children knows it's the hardest job you'll ever do. My husband actually jokes that he's off on his holidays when he leave the house for work! You're blessed if you're lucky enough to stay at home with your kids, but that doesn't mean that it's easy! X
- friday.is.greenAmen indeed! 💪 I only have one so far, second one due in June and I'm struggling on a lot of days. So bravo to you pulling it all off. Most definitely the hardest (and most important) job on earth 💚👏
- rebeccastagramVacuum up flung food three times a day? I hear you sister! I worked a 70+ hr week corporate job before having twins and I look back on that time as "easy" now 😳 We have the most wonderful and important job, that I know for sure X
- rebeccastagram@reilz2 I agree! I worked ridiculous hours at a very intense occupation before I had my now 10 month old twins, looking back my old life seems downright cruisey 🤣
- itsdeelifestyle#mumlife 🙌🏽
- daisydakI'm a mom of twins. I feel you @bubs2bikinis. Stay positive!
- mua_dnelleMother of twin identical boys here too. Keep up the great work and yes when they are older they will entertain each other way more lol I couldn't take my eyes off them either. People will always think they know better. Stay true to your beliefs. ✊🏼
- dasha_windI don't think a comment of this nature was meant to upset anyone. I absolutely would say the same thing "I wish I got to stay home" even though I did stay home with my son!! 100% Breastfed and I donated milk! Moms always think it's easier on the other side. Whatever a family chooses to do, either way it is hard. Leaving your child in someone elses hands is so much harder than taking care of them. To my opinion
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