Before you go crazy in the comments, let me explain myself. I know that nowadays, a lot of women are fighting to work just as hard as men. They're fighting for equality, which is a noble cause, but what do we get in reality?
In real life, women often work as many hours as their husbands at jobs they hate because they need to make money, yet they still need to keep their homes clean and cozy, cook delicious food, give birth to children, be enthusiastic in bed, keep a positive attitude on life and stay in shape for their men ALL at the same time. Whereas a man's primary responsibility is to work and occasionally throw out the garbage.
There are obviously exceptions to this scenario where both partners help each other out in their daily routines, but more often than not, women end up exhausting themselves. What happens next? Everything goes to shit. They become more prone to cheating on their partners, they stop taking care of themselves, they turn into grumpy mothers, they're never "in the mood", they're just so fucking tired... If a woman works because of the need to make money in order to pay the bills and feed her family, she stops being a sexy vixen and turns into a working horse.
So here's what I have to say - a woman should only work if her job makes her genuinely happy. If she's passionate about her business or the company she works for, that's when she can grow to her full potential in all areas of her life. Her job shouldn't take away from her life as a wife or as a mother, it should actually make her life better. Otherwise, a woman that hates her job and lives for the weekend is a recipe for disaster. I personally know plenty of women who hate their jobs, yet continue to work because they need money to be able to afford a certain lifestyle as a family.
Part 2 in the comments 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻
- irina_teeI believe that a woman's primary responsibility is to create a safe harbor for her man and her children. A happy woman cannot exist in a reality where she's pressured to work or else they'll be on the street. It's a man's responsibility to provide this kind of security for his family. If a man isn't able to give his woman the freedom of doing what she loves and pushes her to work just to make money for their family budget, then he has failed as a man, sorry not sorry.
- gabtln@imavril your thoughts ?
- lifewithmariam_I would say I agree, but I have a point which is totally based on my scenario maybe because I was raised in a household where my mother was a homemaker. I personally feel that a woman should be financially independent, there are so many things we love doing but is not necessarily important. For those kind of wants if a women steps up nd does something to live the life she wants then there is no harm. Btw I don't work I depend on my husband for all my needs and wants and I sure as he'll want to change that.
- lifewithmariam_Sure as hell**
- mreljack😅on so many levels
- systmdeYou know @irina_tee, it's kinda cool when you've been outside of North America for a while living like the rest of the world and realize this reality distortin field western women have created and the bullshit, unsatisfaction, and misery they've brought upon themselves wanting to be like men without realizing the power and value they've had all along. I'm talking about the "F" word and how it has ruined male/female dynamic in the west by making women suffer and work even harder to forget that they are equal and opposite side of the same coin.
- katerynapotemkina@irina_tee I usually agree with you but not this time. I think for each is own for this case. I particularly cannot be too long without working making money, being useful and professional is fulfilling for me. Of course there are days I wanna stay sleep but no one says that when a woman works her man can never help out around a house in awhile. Honestly for me it's not about equality it's how I feel personally if I stay home too long I'll start feeling bad and unfulfilled... because let's be real anyone can clean a house do dishes not anyone can progress professionally
- imavril@gabtln je pense que ça dépend des tempéraments et des couples
- irina_tee@katerynapotemkina it's interesting, i never said that a woman should stay home, but that's what you understood from the post. I'm saying that a woman should do what makes her happy and never work just because she has to.
- irina_tee@lifewithmariam_ I 100% agree with you. My point was that a family's financial security should not weight on a woman's shoulders. A woman should always strive to be the happiest version of herself, that's what I think. So if you're missing financial security, find a job that you love or start a business - just don't forget to always keep your happiness in mind.
- katerynapotemkina@irina_tee I read your whole post, you put an emphasis why women shouldn't work and I commented on that emphasis. But what ur saying doesn't solely goes for a woman it goes for a man too or are men not allowed to do what makes them happy? Life can be unpredictable you never know what can happen a lady can't be 100% dependent on her man it's just not realistic. I'm not saying at all that a woman has to carry the whole family no one needs that (unless it's a special circumstance) man is emasculated the woman is a martyr blah. I think it's right to make certain sacrifices for the marriage knowing they will lead you to a better future, and if a woman never really put in those long hours at work been dead tired from school chores job she'll never eventually appreciate her husband truly for doing those same things. I agree with you on many other points especially vixen, working horse one. And I'm not attacking you just having a healthy debate.
- irina_tee@katerynapotemkina I actually love your points especially when you say that it's important to know the struggle of sacrifice and hard work. I think a woman should learn independence prior to getting involved in a relationship, it's part of adulting. A single girl needs to take care of herself and her future obviously, but even then, I never understood girls who worked crazy shifts at McDonald's or something, these kinds of jobs will only wear them down and lead to low self esteem. And we need to always aim for happiness, not just making money (that applies to both sexes, I just like talking to women better). Once in a relationship, however, it's a man's job to provide a solid foundation for his family, otherwise why even have a man by your side if you have to bust your ass AND be a sexy vixen. A woman can still work and make money when in a relationship if she wants to and if it makes her happy, I'm just against situations where women are forced to work because they have no other choice. If a man hasn't reached a certain level of financial stability and needs his woman to help him out in this department, then he isn't really ready for a family or he has a mentality of a beta-male which isn't at all attractive to me personally. He's like an amoeba basically. What do you think? Would you work two jobs in order to get your family out of debt let's say?
- jojobba88I think what you say makes sense, only if you apply it to both partners. I always believed that people should do what they love and what they are best at whether they are women or men or anyone else. You are good a business but are a terrible cook while your significant other's passion is cooking? Let them indulge in that while you deal with work. Some women are not amazing homemaker while their husbands are. Let them switch thing up. I believe that in 2017 we should be smart and instead of trying to find a panacea, let's find solutions to our particular situations.
Let's devide tasks equally, let's not force one partner to work to the bone (whether it is as an employee at a company or a homemaker) while the other isn't helping. Let's me smart and mature!
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