Because I read so much for work, the idea of "vacation" includes reading simply for pleasure--books I've had on the shelf for months that I haven't been able to get to. First I conquered The Goldfinch, all 780 pages of the Pulitzer. (I still do not know WHAT to think about that crazy book, except the writing is brilliant, but MY GOSH.) Now I have moved on to Being Mortal, and I'm engrossed, so so good. 
Three years ago, when we were at the height of some of our hardest years as a family, coming to terms with some of the diagnosis and realities of the years ahead, our therapists (as well as my spiritual director) and doctors told us we needed to play more, vacation more, as a couple and as a family, that we needed to bond more through play, away from the stressors of work and schedule and the demands of school and social engagements. We needed to run away and cling to one another. It felt (at the time) SO nice to be given permission to turn off and direct our energies to bonding, playing, and turning inward, focusing on the needs of our immediate family. At the same time, we had been so engrained in the "Radical" / "Hole in our Gospel" philosophy of living, I felt ashamed and guilty for being so happy about the doctor's insistence that we secure our oxygen masks now, not later, that we start prioritizing connection and restoration (which looks different for everyone). In this life stage, with children on the cusp of high school, a husband that travels often for work and my own joys professionally, the schools and sports and church activities, and the way we can be so spread out even under one roof, I'm glad we took this Holy week to be together. Who knows the next time we will all have the same spring break schedule? Who knows what next year will even look like, let alone the years after? So we live. And breathe. And soak in today.
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  • karenyates11Because I read so much for work, the idea of "vacation" includes reading simply for pleasure--books I've had on the shelf for months that I haven't been able to get to. First I conquered The Goldfinch, all 780 pages of the Pulitzer. (I still do not know WHAT to think about that crazy book, except the writing is brilliant, but MY GOSH.) Now I have moved on to Being Mortal, and I'm engrossed, so so good.
    Three years ago, when we were at the height of some of our hardest years as a family, coming to terms with some of the diagnosis and realities of the years ahead, our therapists (as well as my spiritual director) and doctors told us we needed to play more, vacation more, as a couple and as a family, that we needed to bond more through play, away from the stressors of work and schedule and the demands of school and social engagements. We needed to run away and cling to one another. It felt (at the time) SO nice to be given permission to turn off and direct our energies to bonding, playing, and turning inward, focusing on the needs of our immediate family. At the same time, we had been so engrained in the "Radical" / "Hole in our Gospel" philosophy of living, I felt ashamed and guilty for being so happy about the doctor's insistence that we secure our oxygen masks now, not later, that we start prioritizing connection and restoration (which looks different for everyone). In this life stage, with children on the cusp of high school, a husband that travels often for work and my own joys professionally, the schools and sports and church activities, and the way we can be so spread out even under one roof, I'm glad we took this Holy week to be together. Who knows the next time we will all have the same spring break schedule? Who knows what next year will even look like, let alone the years after? So we live. And breathe. And soak in today.

  • jeannestevensBeautiful... thinking I will pick up that book for our much needed break next week. Love to you @karenyates11
  • welcometowanderThose books were so helpful for us, for a season, and after awhile we started to feel the guilt too and it became hard to just be and be okay with not saving the world every second and that God can actually call us to rest and play as a family and not constantly act. So glad you are in a nourishing time with your family. Soak it up!
  • debeaton7Well said my dear friend❤️
  • everybitterthingissweetLove this 💗
  • shannanwritesWe realized last year that family vacations have to be a priority. They can't always be fancy, but they are a worthy investment! Also, I commend you for making it through Goldfinch. I only got halfway.
  • aspire_and_shine❤️ Enjoy!!
  • sarabethfachetti
  • 8lifeisbeautifulSo true and inspiring. Hope you guys enjoyed every minute of your time together❣️ So glad to hear you loved Being Mortal- it has been in our pile to read also.
  • jhay805Connection and restoration. Thx for this post.
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