It's been a year since my therapist and I terminated my sessions. And 365 days is a good measure of time to objectively articulate what that means for me.

Yes, I sought therapy 17 months ago because a lot of things started to feel broken and confusing. Nothing earth-shattering had happened in case you're wondering why 'a normal person like me' (whatever that means) needed therapy. But in hindsight, there were so many unresolved, pent up thoughts and feelings that I'm glad I didn't let any stigma hold me back from seeking professional help.

BTW, there's nothing un-normal about therapy.
Is there stigma in seeking professional help when your teeth decay or arteries choke or bones turn brittle from years of negligent care? Nope, right? 
Trust me when I say that my sessions in therapy have been the easier part. The challenge arose after my therapist and I decided that we could terminate our sessions

At first I was ecstatic. I had begun to get better (and not just feel better; P.S.: there's a difference) and function better. 
And then three months later, I unexpectedly found myself staring at an older version of myself in the mirror. The ghosts of my past had come visiting and I was in the least bit prepared. It's the equivalent of being caught with your pants down in public!

After a good 12 hours of being in denial (and only feeling much worse), I realised that the only way out of the sandstorm was through it. While in therapy, I was also training in counseling under my therapist. I had had with me the wherewithals to navigate my way

In time (and patience with self is key here) I found my bearings

I've learnt that much can transpire when you own your story.
That denial helps nobody.
That vulnerability and sensitivity are strengths.
That stigmatizing or victimising yourself is self-defeating.
That it's OK to not feel OK. Nothing in nature blooms all year through, right?
That at all times you have to keep reaching out to people around you. Yes, they may not always know the right things to say or do but that shouldn't hold you back from expressing what you're going through.
Above all, self-compassion triumphs all

#mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #BeYouForYou
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  • nomadicthunkerIt's been a year since my therapist and I terminated my sessions. And 365 days is a good measure of time to objectively articulate what that means for me.

    Yes, I sought therapy 17 months ago because a lot of things started to feel broken and confusing. Nothing earth-shattering had happened in case you're wondering why 'a normal person like me' (whatever that means) needed therapy. But in hindsight, there were so many unresolved, pent up thoughts and feelings that I'm glad I didn't let any stigma hold me back from seeking professional help.

    BTW, there's nothing un-normal about therapy.
    Is there stigma in seeking professional help when your teeth decay or arteries choke or bones turn brittle from years of negligent care? Nope, right?
    Trust me when I say that my sessions in therapy have been the easier part. The challenge arose after my therapist and I decided that we could terminate our sessions

    At first I was ecstatic. I had begun to get better (and not just feel better; P.S.: there's a difference) and function better. 
    And then three months later, I unexpectedly found myself staring at an older version of myself in the mirror. The ghosts of my past had come visiting and I was in the least bit prepared. It's the equivalent of being caught with your pants down in public!

    After a good 12 hours of being in denial (and only feeling much worse), I realised that the only way out of the sandstorm was through it. While in therapy, I was also training in counseling under my therapist. I had had with me the wherewithals to navigate my way

    In time (and patience with self is key here) I found my bearings

    I've learnt that much can transpire when you own your story.
    That denial helps nobody.
    That vulnerability and sensitivity are strengths.
    That stigmatizing or victimising yourself is self-defeating.
    That it's OK to not feel OK. Nothing in nature blooms all year through, right?
    That at all times you have to keep reaching out to people around you. Yes, they may not always know the right things to say or do but that shouldn't hold you back from expressing what you're going through.
    Above all, self-compassion triumphs all

    #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #BeYouForYou

  • nomadicthunker@snehaphalle We grow through what we go through, no Sneha? 💜
  • nomadicthunker@one_life_to_travel Thanks, Jayanti
  • nomadicthunker@anushtup_ Those are very kind words. Thank you.
  • nomadicthunker@prasids Thank you. Honest is the way to keep going :)
  • nomadicthunker@shubham.mansingka Thanks, Shubham
  • nomadicthunker@zehrachhapiwala And ME is constantly evolving 😇
  • nomadicthunker@pranati.deshpande Proud to have made it past the cut-off 😉
  • agnostic_bohemianFully agree and identify with whatever you have written ... 👍👍... U doin it d right way... Have been thru it myself...
  • janvi.gWow, your posts are so inspiring Elita! Any chance you available to meet next week for coffee?
  • nomadicthunker@agnostic_bohemian Thank you, Bratin. Like Dory from Finding Nemo says, "Just keep swimming"
  • nomadicthunker@janvi.g Hey hey! Thanks, Janvi. Aye aye. Let's. I'll ping you on FB
  • agnostic_bohemianDats true Elita... Jus keep goin... No matter what... 👍👍
  • travelseewriteYou are such a brave girl Elita. It takes immense guts to do and feel the way you do. But I do understand there are moments when the world around might feel you are so strong whereas you can be totally wrecked from inside. But that's ok. These are phases of life. And only the stronger ones like you get to pass through the sandstorm. Stay strong girl! You are not alone 😊
  • snehaphalle@nomadicthunker Certainly.
  • nomadicthunker@travelseewrite Thank you for your words, Archana. I really do appreciate it. I'm going with the Greek philosophy of "Know thyself" and figuring life-as-I-know-it on the go :)
  • nomadscribblingsA huge thanks for writing this ❤️
  • hoppingfoodieThis honesty jus makes you 'Awesome' 💕
  • nomadicthunker@nomadscribblings 💜 It felt like the right time to talk about it
  • nomadicthunker@hoppingfoodie Thanks Shveta! As it turns out, I don't know anything but honest :)
  • nomadicthunker@arun161185 That depends on one's perspective. Is it a sign of weakness to seek help when you have a fever? Or when you've fractured a bone?
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