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  • hellosplendidblogThere have been so many times in the last two years that I feel overwhelmed by Blake. I don't talk about it very much because at the end of the day I am so grateful to have him. He is the child we almost didn't have. Going places with him is tough. Much harder than I remember with Kayla. He will not sit in a shopping cart. He will not walk in a store. He wants to be held. And if not, I am that mother with the child laying on the floor in the middle of Target having a fit. A position none of us want. We hardly ever eat out as a family because historically Craig or I wind up walking out with a flailing Blake by the time our food comes. He's a different child from Kayla. Of course he is. This morning on a whim Craig and I decided we would take the kids out for donuts, which we never do. Blake sat and had a donut with us. Then we went to Target where he ASKED me to put him in the cart and proceeded to sit happily, chatting with me while I raced through the store trying to find last minute things for a business trip and not wanting to test fate. We went to lunch at a pizza restaurant where he colored, ate and behaved wonderfully. I didn't know what to do with myself. The entire time I was scared to jinx it. Outings as a family to stores and restaurants are so filled with stress for Craig and I. It was the least stressful family outing we have had in months. Years? For a good two years I have watched other women with their babies do the same things I am trying to do...like walk through a store. I have thought to myself, why can't we be like them? What am I doing wrong? Obviously it's me. And worse, I'm not a first timer. This is my second child. I'm supposed to know what I'm doing. I should be able to navigate around this. And I realized there is a damn good chance there are plenty of other moms on here feeling the same way. So if you are, you're not alone. ❤️ And yes, you can love a tiny person more than it's possible to express and also be overwhelmed by them.

  • raisedbycultureThey are the ones that teach us about life💖
  • linesacrossAw yay! And it's so true - every child is so so different!!! And Oliver went through about a year like that but around 2 and a half he turned a corner and things got just a little bit easier.
  • letsplayparentsHang in there. This is just phase...he will eventually learn to manage all that energy. My son was the same way when he was younger...my husband and i had to take turns eating at a restaurant because he wouldn't sit. The secret is to remain calm when your kid isn't. He will eventually learn to do the same. One thing that helped me was to take my son to a park and let him run around before going to run an errand. This was usually helpful because he would use that energy and was able to stay calm while i ran errands....but i still kept my errands short. Lol
  • pennysqrdMy little guy, my first, has a lot of delays and sensory issues. We have had occupational therapy, speech and a special needs teacher for over a year and a half. He is better now and so am I. Learning curve. My second little, he's an excellent sleeper, loves food and is an opposite to his brother. I completely understand. *hugs*
  • linsy_joyMy 1.5 yo boy is a tornado too! I can find myself getting a little envious of the moms with kids who are not as 'busy'. But I wouldn't trade him for the world. He's so loving, smart, and hilarious. He just keeps me in shape 😆
  • mommyandherboysThis post reminds me of my second, Jacob! So many times my husband and I look at each other and wonder where he came from because he's so different from both of us... and from our first son, Jack. But life has definitely gotten easier and oh my goodness we couldn't imagine our lives without our spicy chili pepper! Your son is absolutely adorable and way to go little guy! I don't want to jinx it... but keep it up little man! 🙌🏼
  • oliviamhowellThank you for this!
  • republicroad@hellosplendidblog ....such truth. Our 2nd is not like our first and I spent much of his first two and a half years feeling defeated, stressed and angry with myself. Days would go by where I would be so frustrated yet love this 2nd child so immensely it took my breath away (still does!). He is about to be 3 in March and we have "turned the corner" so to speak. He also now sits, asks, engages without screaming and tantrums. I've also been that mom at Target. So encouraging to know I'm okay to also feel overwhelmed and still love him so much! ❤👊
  • hihomemadeblogI remember this season of life all too well! My older two boys are 14 months apart, and taking them both to places when they were that age was the stuff that nightmares are made of! Then we had our youngest and he was even worse than the two of them combined! Hang in there, I promise it will get better! ❤️
  • theleolovesI feel this! My oldest was like this and I promise that one day it will all of the sudden just be easy. Like a light switch!In the meantime enjoy these beautiful days that give you glimpses of the future ❤
  • thedenverhousewifeYou just described my life with our son. He is such a handful, but so worth it.
  • adelinapriddisSo glad it was a good outing!! I had a first time mom mom a few weeks before her delivery ask me for advice. Truth be told, I had no idea what to tell her. I've had 4, expecting 5, and I still don't think u have it figured out. Each child is so very unique.
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  • michelle_rose_3@hellosplendidblog so you just literally summed up my 2.7 years with my kid. it has been the hardest thing in the world and i too watch other moms enjoying their kids while i struggle to leave the house most days with mine. she has turned a corner in the last couple of months thankfully. i find that when she knows where we are going and we have set patterns (we get a donut at lucky'a donuts every sunday) she is way better behaved. on top of all this she is also an extremely picky eater which always has me very stressed out. that is getting a little better too. we started her in speech therapy and OT at spot kids and i think that combined with preschool has really helped us. i have also learned how to discipline her in a way that works for her (we take time in's instead of time out's and I always remain very calm). that being said you are sooooooo not alone and you really just described out experience with our daughter.
  • jabsplethora💜
  • themamalovesThey all have their quirks and rough patches. I'm glad his are smoothing out!
  • gohbahandcraftsBrilliant! Best one so far!
  • peanut.blossomWhy does it seem the second one always throws a wrench in things?? I had a tricky one too. Many days out ending in tears {for me}. They are so different from #1 it's hard to figure out the new rules. Hang in there! It DOES get better.
  • leoinalei@amandapanda725
  • amandapanda725@leoinalei Hopefully by 2 she gets better! There's hope
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