UNPOPULAR OPINION (perhaps): But these #WomensMarch rallies really cause a bit of cognitive dissonance for me. 
On the one hand, it's beautiful and encouraging to see women (and men) from every walk of life banding together to fight a common enemy. But on the other hand I feel very strongly that, for some of us, this isn't--and shouldn't be--our fight. This particular fight belongs to the overwhelming majority of white women who voted against their own interests in exchange for continued white privilege. (Check the stats, not me.) And I think it's important that there be consequences for those actions--or inaction. It's important for those women to understand that you can't kick a person in the face and then ask them to tend to your bruised foot. Yes, we're all going to lose because of it, but maybe this will help to highlight the importance of understanding intersectionality and embracing TRUE inclusion. 
So while I think it's a worthwhile fight and I'm happy to see the resistance, I'm personally sitting this one out, because I feel like I (we) did my part when it counted. And also because what lesson is learned if we always pick people up when they fail us?
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  • blakevondUNPOPULAR OPINION (perhaps): But these #WomensMarch rallies really cause a bit of cognitive dissonance for me.
    On the one hand, it's beautiful and encouraging to see women (and men) from every walk of life banding together to fight a common enemy. But on the other hand I feel very strongly that, for some of us, this isn't--and shouldn't be--our fight. This particular fight belongs to the overwhelming majority of white women who voted against their own interests in exchange for continued white privilege. (Check the stats, not me.) And I think it's important that there be consequences for those actions--or inaction. It's important for those women to understand that you can't kick a person in the face and then ask them to tend to your bruised foot. Yes, we're all going to lose because of it, but maybe this will help to highlight the importance of understanding intersectionality and embracing TRUE inclusion.
    So while I think it's a worthwhile fight and I'm happy to see the resistance, I'm personally sitting this one out, because I feel like I (we) did my part when it counted. And also because what lesson is learned if we always pick people up when they fail us?

  • kashoutkariPreach. For now I'm washing my hands of the matter. I don't know no Donald Trump... when it comes time for the midterm elections I will likely be called to try and do more but for now I'm good. I damn sure ain't helping a soul who voted for
  • kashoutkariTrump...oh you on fire?? 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️
  • lgibbs24I debated responding, but as a fellow WOC I thought I would. I hear you on some points. It's exhausting trying to do what we do day in and day out without having to shoulder the burden of others mistakes. Those women, though, the white moderates, they didn't show up today. I marched and I'm friends with a LOT of them and they stayed home and "prayed". They're not learning from their mistakes and they sure as heck aren't going to fight for our rights. Likening it to children is also interesting...I have 2 of my own and while I let them learn from their mistakes when appropriate if the mistake they're facing puts me and many others in imminent danger I will absolutely step in. For me, I chose to channel my anger into action to fix the system from within. Figure out where this strong African American woman's voice can make the most impact from the inside. It's not everyone's method of fighting for sure, but the oppressor never willing freed the oppressed and the white moderate is sitting home watching the world burn, not learning a lesson. I cannot go down in flames for the sake of their learning. I appreciate your willingness to share a dissenting opinion because it opens the eyes of many to the hearts of the few! ✊🏾
  • blakevond@lgibbs24 That's fair and I respect it. I just think we give liberal (and moderate) white women too much credit. But the crowds NEVER look this diverse when the issues are solely ours. I'm just at a place where I think it's time we start holding people accountable for reciprocity OR let them learn how to do it without us...the way we have.
  • moonlovechildSpeak. On. It!!!👊
  • theslim.reaper@doublestuffdoreo a motherfucking read.
  • sylviaseesSPEAK ON IT. Also? TOO little, FAR too late. The time to do all this was last year.
  • sylviasees@blakevond also so proud of you. It takes courage to speak *the* truth (not "your truth" because it's so much bigger, and so much more universal). Don't ever fear the 45K, because we know the truth--even those that would fight you on it. You're supported on this. Thank you for using your voice and platform. ❤
  • aventureuxkIf i could love this post a BILLION TIMES, I really would. 🙌🏾👍🏾👌🏾👏🏾 to ALL of this. And I've read the comments and agree with all your thoughts because I've been feeling that way.
  • create.infinityI see this point and where it's coming from, but I'm not totally with it. As you said, the marches were a symbol of solidarity and resistance for all women. This includes those who voted for Trump, but they were not the focus of the march; the goal wasn't to "tend to [their] bruised foot". Yes, I hope those women (and Trump himself + his supporters and the GOP) have a change of heart, but we'd be silly to expect that any time soon. Many attended his inauguration just one day prior. Yes, the resistance might be more effective if it came from the people responsible for electing Trump, but in this case we all lose by sitting around waiting for that to happen. We have to stick up for ourselves and make our presence known. We did that yesterday, some of us standing with Trump supporting women (which is another conversation) to let him know that despite his success, there are people the world over who want more from him / don't fuck with him. I can see many reasons for having stayed home or done something else yesterday. But the argument that it should have been Trump supporters instead of the rest of us, that this is their responsibility AND NOT ours doesn't fit. This is everyone's responsibility, and those of us who aren't for Trump's America must resist. @aventureuxk
  • create.infinity@blakevond so say you were on a boat, and I made it sink. If you could do something to revive the boat or create a new boat for the good of all passengers (including me, but also including yourself and your loved ones), you would not do it, just because I'm not gonna help you?
  • victoriaristaSo you would rather have all the gains made recently rolled back as punishment to those who already don't care and will likely continue not to care when the ACA is repealed, when Jeff sessions (too racist to be a federal judge but likely soon to be head of the justice dept) guts the civil rights division, when more restrictions are put in place on access to contraception and abortion? The phrase cutting off your nose to spite your face comes to mind...
  • wishlistvintageWhy I stayed home. Let them march. It's their turn. Our brown and black bodies have been brutalized enough. I was not about to sacrifice myself to the white supremacist machine in the name of Donald Trump.
  • blakevond@victoriarista I don't have to participate in a symbolic march in order to do my part to make sure those things don't happen. Unless you guys signed some laws yesterday I didn't know about?
  • mizwoochic@theglossier Perfectly stated! Thank you ✊🏾
  • vintagehoochie#Urbanfeminism
  • naturalhairwonderAwesome :)
  • _kierstenelizabeth🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
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  • krystian.indahashHey, please check your DM (:
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