going.zero.wasteWhat we consider to be our first "real" date was a trip to Washington D.C. because we love museums and felt deprived of @mellowmushroom while living in PA. At this point in time, I was a little crunchy, but over the course of our relationship, I became super crunchy. I appreciate @throwmedownawell growing and changing with me. My reflections on growing and changing with a partner when it comes to major lifestyle differences, plus tips from world renown matchmaker Pari Livermore on the blog today. (Link in profile) What sage relationship advice can you offer for approaching changing lifestyles? #goingzerowaste
- going.zero.waste@mariahleethor absolutely! Great advice. 😊
- jesswfromtexasIan and I had our honeymoon in D.C. We absolutely loved it. We loved the public transportation and how easy it was to walk or cycle everywhere. We loved the museums and parks as well. Marriage and committed relationships definitely teach you a lot about yourself . It's amazing to discover that someone else doesn't function the same way you do, and that can be difficult at first. It's all about communication. Talk talk talk. And learn to accept that your partner's brain and heart may work differently than yours. The book, The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman is super valuable. It helped me understand my husband when before there was just a disconnect. Learning how to love your spouse in the way they receive and receive love in the way your spouse gives (this goes both ways for both people) is so extremely valuable. Most everything falls into place when you know how to love each other.
- residuzerowasteI'm going to read it as soon as I reach home. My partner is zero on board with zero waste (he's much older than me so he basically lacks any conscience on eco matters, as most of people of his age do, at least here) and I'm happy he uses reusable bags (most of the time) and is now drinking with reusable straws I gifted to him even though he doesn't like the feel ("they're cold & hard"). We don't live together yet and I honestly feel a little anxious. He will probably adapt to my lifestyle in some ways but I doubt we will live a zero waste life (which by the way I don't live now either, because I live with my parents who are super-eco-inconscious and buy all the food packaged in plastic... but I do what I can!). We'll see.
- fillareeLove this pic!!! ❤️💚❤️
- geo_awakeI have ten years in total with my husband. In truth marriage is a work in progress, you'll both learn from yourself and from each other. My advice, try to allow yourself to be wrong in order to learn what he can teach you. See your disagreements as a way to see the world from another point of view. Support each other even when you don't understand each other. Be kind, and always always do nice things for each other, little details every day count 😊 is a wonderful thing to have a life partner. He will be your mirror, your friend, your husband and your family 😍
- jkcgardenerPatience, patience, patience. Focus on yourself. And gentleness. Also highly recommend the book "Change Anything" by the VitalSmarts group (Patterson, Grenny et al) to help understand behavioral science - what really works and what really doesn't!
- sixela_entCrunchy?? What does that mean
- going.zero.waste@sixela_ent crunchy, granola, hippie, flower child, eco warrior, etc.
- going.zero.waste@jesswfromtexas it's so true! What may be so clear to you and your brain can be sooooo different in someone else's. The challenge and the fun of it though! Yes, I love D.C.! It's so amazing we. I loved the walkability.
- going.zero.waste@ginablasco yes, do your thing. They'll eventually pick up bits and pieces. It may not be everything and that's ok too. As you've seen most comments here, it's all about patience. It's a journey, not a race. 😊
- imatahigherplace_star67@jesswfromtexas awesome advice!
- going.zero.waste@fillaree thanks friend! Let me know if you start your kick starter.
- going.zero.waste@geo_awake great advice!!
- going.zero.waste@jkcgardener thanks for the tip, I'll check it out!
- growfromnatureLove it!
- riceball1For me my partner also helps to regulate me, otherwise if our partners were equally like us how do we learn to question what we do, and it teaches me to accept people's differing viewpoints and find ways to compromise ✌️
- agatek.krkDate frequently. Have a weekly date, when you go out for a coffee, dinner, movie. When you don't go through lists but enjoy your company. Love your dress!
- email@example.com great tip! Thank you!
- simplyzerowasteI would say grace is so important in changing lifestyle. Give your partner grace in their decisions. My partner adapts some zero waste practices and not others and that's okay. We need to give others education on why we are changing our lifestyle, and then the grace to let them choose their own path. And date! Go out for fun dates always, like tacos 🌮
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