WHEN SOMEONE SAYS NO 
When someone says no and we take it personally, we shut down. And then there's no room for possibility. 
We get disappointed. Then we cover up or compensate for that disappointment. However the disappointment is always there. 
We spend our entire life covering up or compensating for our fears or disappointment. Then we go to making that disappointment ok. "He's cancelled three dates in one week, but I know he really likes me." And we think that's normal. That it's rational. But it's insane. 
The reason you won't be with what happened is because in your heart of heart you don't want to be face to face with disappointment. It makes you crazy. It rocks your foundation. That's why crap marriages go on for 40 years. 
What do you make no mean? When someone says no your act takes over and you say things like "I'm fine. No big deal." But you're full of crap. 
Bottom line: yes or no, you add meaning to everything and it's disempowering and it stops you. 
When there's no meaning there's nothing to stop you. 
When you're standing in possibility you bring no meaning so there's nothing to stop you. 
Think of a time when you were attached to producing a result. What was there?
Desperation. 
Counting money. 
Stress. 
Fear. 
Manipulation. 
7 KEY THINGS WHEN YOU'RE ATTACHED TO PRODUCING A RESULT
1) emotional response
2) strategizing/ "in order to"
3) bringing a significant tone 
4) left disappointed and upset when they say no
5) being positional and defensive
6) you are driven. 
7) drama 
You don't think your being dramatic. You think you're being right. 
When the conversation in your head starts with "I want something, I need something..." Then you're attached. 
Then we lose all ability to create anything else. To enroll or empower anything. 
The definition of attachment is not wanting to deal with what to make no mean about you. You're avoiding what's so and your act. 
To wait for perfection is to avoid the domination of commitment. 
Make a choice, and create from there.
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  • avidyamusicWHEN SOMEONE SAYS NO
    When someone says no and we take it personally, we shut down. And then there's no room for possibility.
    We get disappointed. Then we cover up or compensate for that disappointment. However the disappointment is always there.
    We spend our entire life covering up or compensating for our fears or disappointment. Then we go to making that disappointment ok. "He's cancelled three dates in one week, but I know he really likes me." And we think that's normal. That it's rational. But it's insane.
    The reason you won't be with what happened is because in your heart of heart you don't want to be face to face with disappointment. It makes you crazy. It rocks your foundation. That's why crap marriages go on for 40 years.
    What do you make no mean? When someone says no your act takes over and you say things like "I'm fine. No big deal." But you're full of crap.
    Bottom line: yes or no, you add meaning to everything and it's disempowering and it stops you.
    When there's no meaning there's nothing to stop you.
    When you're standing in possibility you bring no meaning so there's nothing to stop you.
    Think of a time when you were attached to producing a result. What was there?
    Desperation.
    Counting money.
    Stress.
    Fear.
    Manipulation.
    7 KEY THINGS WHEN YOU'RE ATTACHED TO PRODUCING A RESULT
    1) emotional response
    2) strategizing/ "in order to"
    3) bringing a significant tone
    4) left disappointed and upset when they say no
    5) being positional and defensive
    6) you are driven.
    7) drama
    You don't think your being dramatic. You think you're being right.
    When the conversation in your head starts with "I want something, I need something..." Then you're attached.
    Then we lose all ability to create anything else. To enroll or empower anything.
    The definition of attachment is not wanting to deal with what to make no mean about you. You're avoiding what's so and your act.
    To wait for perfection is to avoid the domination of commitment.
    Make a choice, and create from there.
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